Who are you to judge another?
Who are you to say who they are or what they mean?
Who are you to say what they've experienced?
Who are you to judge them when you have no idea what they have been through?
Who are you to judge them without walking in their shoes and experiencing life in the same ways they have? Feeling things the way they have.
You have no idea what they have been through.
You have no idea what experiences made up their life.
You have no idea what they were told or how they were treated as a child.
You have no idea what it feels like to be them.
Everyone is different.
Everyone has gone through different things.
Everyone has experiences that shape their lives and those experiences leave different impressions on different people in different ways.
Who are you to judge that for another?
Do you like it when someone else judges you?
Have you ever wished some people could walk a mile in your shoes just to understand?
I believe we have all been there at one time or another, either on the judging end or on the opposite end of just wanting others to be open minded and understand what you are going through as YOU, not as they themselves would have dealt with it. Because often times even when we try to explain ourselves or our experiences to another they are only able to understand it from their perceptions and beliefs on how they would have experienced things. Sometimes it may be similar to your own experience and other times it's quite the opposite and there is no convincing the person of any other way of feeling and there's no point in trying, so let it go if you are trying to do that with someone in your life. Often times they are just unable to see things from your perspective no matter how you explain it. And that's okay, just accept that as their reality and take care of yourself.
If people are being hurtful it's likely because they are hurting inside.
If people are judging others it's likely because they were judged by others in life and likely were never accepted for themselves in life.
If people act out and lash out it's because they are in pain in some form.
If people get hurt feelings easily it's likely because they were ridiculed and wounded as children, or by others in their adult life.
There is so much more.
People are doing the best they can with what they know.
When others are hurting inside they act out in ways that may look inappropriate, but they are only doing what they have been programmed to do based on childhood beliefs, treatment by others, and their perceptions of those actions.
This is one of the many things that make people as individuals so unique and complex. The understanding of this and acceptance will help you and those in your life if you are open to it. Next time you get triggered by someone else's actions or words, instead of judging them for it, take a step back and understand that they are hurting inside and are acting and speaking in that way for their own personal reasons and often they don't realize these things exist within themselves. Also an even better thing to do is to look inside yourself and find out why YOU were triggered to begin with, why you felt the need to judge, and see what lies within you under the circumstances.
They or you could be angry inside over past traumas that have never been dealt with or even be known as happening. They or you could have been wounded by people in life by bullying and hurtful words. They or you could have been traumatized in any way, there could have been abuse in any number of ways, and so much more. So keep an open mind and be more compassionate to your fellow humans, they are going through their own things and doing the best they know how in that moment.
Healing can occur for them, and for you, but only if it is sought out by the individual, because they want the healing, not because someone else wants it for them. Don't try to force a change or for someone to heal their wounds if they are not ready. Only they can determine that. All you can do is be compassionate and understanding of what they may be feeling inside and work on yourself. Figure out your own inner wounds and beliefs that make up you and let them heal themselves on their own terms, in their own time.
Blessings to you all.